Ageing is not necessarily the easiest of stages for anyone to go through.The changes are quite profound, both bodily and what our outer social needs may be. What we can accomplish and how we feel about things. One of the main things is not to get caught in the "decline" ideas, but to recontexualise to a broader more humanistic idea of transition to another stage of life. Where needs are different, outlook can change and the possibility of transformation is held.
Change is an ongoing an inevitable part of human life, being able to embrace change, flow with it and move beyond the glitches of fear, while abandoning our past, is the skill of letting go. And in letting go, is embodied the idea of having new experiences , that may have with our past consciousness bought fear or trepidation.
This can, to an older person seem more like the stage of life of a far younger person, with an adventurous heart and mind. We now want comfy slippers and to avoid the daily hype and news given us by a media that goes over and over the same thing on daily basis.
We do, when we get older, begin to see the sameness of world events being repeated ad infinitum, with slightly differing backdrops and characters. The script given a change that updates the language and idiom to be current and reflective; Same,same but different!
Does this make us tired and jaded? Well the possibilitiy of this choice is available, or the moment of ahha can be sought and opened as a viable opportunity for understanding life in a different way where the external scenario doesn't hold value. And we begin to detach from the valuelessness of the repetitive scenes of destruction and expansion, conflict and harmony.
We begin on a journey that takes us through a questioning of beliefs, and asking the questions of what meaning we have given events and ideas. We see how the possibility of our meanings can be wrong or no longer useful. And if they are not deeply held they will fall away without to much pain.
Causing a kind of vacuum to appear, and an explosion of possibility to enter consciousness. To stay present with this new and vibrant way of understanding your self is why many of us over the years have practised the spiritual arts of meditiation, conscious communication, the use of love and forgiveness as a way of life.This process is one of beginning to use a more internal knowledge or way of viewing,hearing and doing using the prompts given by a higher vibration that must be listened to and from a mind that has been quieted, and stilled. At least for periods of time where a new experience can take place
Staying present to the inward connection of who we are, taking direction from that knowledge of a higher mind that transended the constant engagement with the world. This outer reflection or "doing as the world would have me be" is a path that will inevitably bring despair, anxiety and depression. And the ageing process has embedded in it the opportunity to detach and love.
And while some may see this as an opportunity to become a "grey nomad",notwithing this as a useful metaphor. It is however, a nomadic mind can give rise to new possibilities.
Scientists have proven beyond doubt the plasticity of the human brain and its ability to learn new pathways, conquer new skills and so be more available to itself as a tool to higher consciousness.
To engage the whole self in transformation is to use the physical,the psychological, the mythogical story as well as the spitiual. All these create the whole and none are apart from the other. In the process of ageing the physical change is apparent, with facial change of wrinkles and dropped cheeks, hair turning grey, the bodies dry and sagging skin, weight gain is easy and in direct proportion to lack of exercise and love of good food, and a forgetting that while we no longer run like the wind we also probably should not eat like we did once.
The mind starts this transformation by moving away from bodily conscerns of beauty as prescribed by a "youth culture" society, to an appreciation of the body as is. This gives rise to the maturity that starts to see beyond the material to the spirit of things and love within each person that is spoken of in all spiritual and religious text.
To take this opportunity is to become conscious in the ageing process of who we are in the whole scheme of life. To be able to start to look at the history and our part in it, the contribution of others, to accept what is, to forgive the past, what we thought others did to us, or what we did to them. We must forgive ourselves in the process of coming to terms with our own death.
Because this is the time when death is no longer something that happens to someone else. It becomes a bedfellow, as friends and family members transition, we attend more funerals, and visit hospitals and those who die.
With this in mind faceing death is our greatest gift. And not waiting till "the end" is possibily the other greatest gift you can give yourself. By letting the fears arise and be bought to conscious understanding then released, we can move toward to our own transition with grace.
Noone has no fear of the unknown, it is inbuilt in the human psyche, to the degree to which each of us is prepared to face these fears, have them be seen,heard and let go of is individual and often amounts to the courage and determination of that person.
Reverend Margo Knox
Graceful Transitions
Australia
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Funeral Celbrant, Bereavement Support, Conscious Ageing workshops
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