A bereaved person who has not sucessfully grieved is more prone to illness, both physical and psychological.
There are several basic principals to remember:
It is normal and healthy to express intense and painful emotions relating to loss.
Grieving is important for healing the wound of seperation
A bereaved person may experience a wide range of feelings ; shock, sadness, anger, guilt, depression, and despair, as well as relief, hope and acceptance.
The painful feelings will diminish with time. if they remain intense and prolonged, then professional help may be required
A total absence of grief, when a person carries on as thought nothing has happened, is not healthy sign and also may indicate the need for professional help.
(Thanks to Mal McKissock, "Coping with Grief")
When listening to friend or relative who is grieving, firstly listen and listening deeply.
They do not want to be "fixed up"
Their grief is normal and real for them.
If it makes you afraid or not know what to say.
Then dont say anything .
Remain calm and open.
Then at a later date ask yourself what the fear is?
Is there grief you haven't dealt with?
Are you afriad of the death and dying process?
All these questions will come up for you when you have a close friend or relative die.
They are wonderful questions to tackle in life
Because they are life's big questions
All the best
The questions you face for yourself or your family can be worked through with someone like myself,
Iam available by email or phone or in person on the Gold Coast , Australia
margo@gracefultransitions.com.au
ph 0409476803
http://www.gracefultransitions.com.au
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